I recently received permission from Starbuck’s to use the title, “St. Arbuck’s Chapel,” for the title of my blog. So from now on, St. Arbuck’s Chapel it is!

Pete Scazerro, in Queens, NY, is one of my mentors. He is the author of the movement called, “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality.” Pete is a retired pastor who is passionate that the Body of Christ be emotionally and spiritually mature.

The following are 25 powerful Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (EHS) truisms that have stood the test of time. They capture, in a memorable way, profound biblical truths about EHS as a discipleship paradigm. I use them often in my teaching and invite you to do the same.

  • It is not possible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.
  • Jesus may be in your heart but grandpa is in your bones.
  • We cannot give what we do not possess.
  • What I do matters. Who I am matters much more.
  • Limits are often God’s gifts in disguise.
  • As goes the leader, so goes the church.
  • For an expectation to be valid, it must be conscious, realistic, spoken, and agreed upon.
  • If you skim on your inner work, your outer work will suffer as well.
  • You can’t separate knowing God from knowing yourself.
  • We cannot change what we are unaware of.
  • Loss marks the place where self-knowledge and powerful transformation happen – if we say yes to God.
  • Our doing for Jesus must be sustained by a life of being with
  • We are not leaders who are married. We lead out ofour marriages.
  • Our shadows undermine the best of who we are unless we face them.
  • Without silence and solitude it is almost impossible to grow in the spiritual life
  • The degree to which we grieve our losses is the degree to which we are compassionate people.
  • God speaks in the sound of sheer silence.
  • The truth sets us free, but it first makes us miserable (Sandra Wilson).
  • When we fail to practice Sabbath, we do violence to ourselves.
  • Sometimes you have to disrupt false peace to have true peace.
  • The body is a major, not a minor prophet.
  • We speak respectfully, honestly, clearly, and in a timely way, in the new family of Jesus.
  • We have to go backwards in order to go forward.
  • Discipleship is the putting off the sinful patterns of your family of origin, and culture, and learning to live in the new family of Jesus.
  • When you are not in reality, you are not in spirituality.

Here’s the homework for the day…or week…or month…..go through each bullet point and on a scale of 1 to 10 (with 10 being high) ask yourself…what is the degree to which this is true in my life and my walk with God?